I have need for intense multi-disciplinary communication with others, especially when working on a project. The shorthand term I've coined is hyperplexic communicationNot to be confused with "hyperlexic", which is a term that applies to children who can read far above their age level..
- hyper - above the normal range
- plex - implies complex / multi-plexed
- alternative forms: hyperplexed communication
Qualities of Hyperplexic Communication
These are traits that I exhibit in my communication style.
- seeking big emotional feels
- multi-faceted, multi-disciplinary concepts
- high-intensity focus on topics and special interests
- high-speed, high-intensity multi-channel data transfer
- explicit signaling of understanding and questioning
- spontaneous hypothesis formation and investigation
- tangential topical exploration
- active pattern finding, comparison, and merging of shared ideas
- use of multi/mixed media to convey information
Note: Many of these qualities seem to be found in populations of highly-verbal autistic expression.
Challenges
A problem with my so-called "hyperplexic communication" is that this level of intensity is not desirable in everyday situations. Previously, I thought that being able to unlock the high-bandwidth / high-intensity communication mode was a way of connecting with people. However, in 2023 I realized that people probably aren't looking for this level of engagement at all. I was setting myself up for failure through this unrealistic expectation.
The mitigation I have is to fall back on negotiated conversation where I am assuming a very low initial level of communication, and IF it seems that the bandwidth/intensity is desired. This is like handshaking a baseline data connection and negotiating higher protocols.
That said, I don't feel fully alive when I am not able to have hyperplexed conversation in my work, and my enthusiasm diminishes quickly. For good productivity, I need to have this type of multi-faceted engagement with working partners. It is not just a desire. This may be correlated with ADHD need for external governing forces.
References
from Groundhog Day Resolution 2023 November Report:
Given:
I feel fully-engaged when I can use deep, intense, high-bandwidth communication techniques. Without this engagement, I quickly lose motivation to work on projects and become discouraged.
Previous Assumption:
I thought that if I could master communication styles and understand where people are coming from so I could "meet them where they are" in an engaging and friendly fashion, then they would feel safe about opening-up about what's on their mind and what they are thinking. This would lead to the deep, intense, high-bandwidth communication that keeps ME engaged with life.
Epiphany:
In contrast to my previous assumption, people are not looking for deep, intense, high-bandwidth communication for the vast majority of the time. Instead, they prefer to keep people at a comfortable distance and like simple, immediate, emotionally undemanding and convenient.